Avoiding Dates
As we all know, it is the natural state for gay guys to shag around, however there are some people who will try to lure you into 'dating'. This involves having to learn someones name, attempt to consider other peoples thoughts and feelings, and contemplate the possibility of
The easiset way to avoid dates is to make it as clear as possible that your only interset is sex, this means displaying naked pictures for all to see, and letting people know you are looking for 'fun'.
Occasiaonlly you will find that it a fit of drunkeness/madness you have agreed to go on a date! So what do you do if this happens and how can your make sure that you date goes badly.
Lie - Make sure your photos are from a time when you look significantly younger and fitter than you are at the moment. This will guarantee disappointment on your date, but will help attract causal encouters.
Indifference is your friend - make sure that you show absolute indifference when you meet your date; it is much easier to do this if you are not physically attracted to your date in the first place.
On the date you can show your indifference by not showing any interest in anything about them; dont ask them any questions.
Be judgemental - remember that its perfectly acceptable to treat your date like a X Factor style audition. Your date is there to entertain and please you and to prove their worth; you are simon cowell - your obviously great and dont need to prove anything.
Sunday, 3 April 2011
Saturday, 26 February 2011
hot and cold
Many latin guys seem to like 'warm' guys, and think that british or northern europeans are 'cold'.
in this context 'hot or cold' means how emotional you are.
The difference is that latin guys interpret emotions in terms of physical expression, such as body language and verbal expression. They like to see and hear emotion, and find it difficult to form a connection if they cannot detect this. Therefore they are more likely to get on with people from similar cultures.
Other people are less expressive, but this doesnt mean they are emotionless. They may show their emotion more subtly.
Interpreting other peoples emotions is like a belief system. If you think someone is cold then you will be cold too them, and if you feel that they are warm to you then you will be warm back.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotions_and_culture
in this context 'hot or cold' means how emotional you are.
The difference is that latin guys interpret emotions in terms of physical expression, such as body language and verbal expression. They like to see and hear emotion, and find it difficult to form a connection if they cannot detect this. Therefore they are more likely to get on with people from similar cultures.
Other people are less expressive, but this doesnt mean they are emotionless. They may show their emotion more subtly.
Interpreting other peoples emotions is like a belief system. If you think someone is cold then you will be cold too them, and if you feel that they are warm to you then you will be warm back.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotions_and_culture
Saturday, 19 February 2011
Finding Love
Sexual love will almost always start with sexual attraction. During this stage, sexual desire should be strong.
If you are meeting someone on a first date then you can play up to this by flirting and being playful. Being too serious is more likely than not to reduce the other persons desire for you.
People are quick to judge and make conclusions. These are a few things that i think about on dates and presumably others do too:
However the previous post implies that to find lasting sexual love, you need to quickly develop an attachment which is not just based on attaction.
We will make the following assumptions:
Humans have a universal need to belong and to love
They get satisfaction from sharing goals and perspective
People feel good around friendlty, funny, enthusiastic people
People like to hear stories, especially anything unusual, surprising, or involving other people, and something horrible/embarrasing (think soap operas)
Different people have different requirements when it comes to bonding and feeling that there is 'chemistry'.
The different elemnst of this chemistry include:
If you are meeting someone on a first date then you can play up to this by flirting and being playful. Being too serious is more likely than not to reduce the other persons desire for you.
People are quick to judge and make conclusions. These are a few things that i think about on dates and presumably others do too:
- Could i introduce this guy to friends/familiy? - Yes is good, and means that the person has the certain key attributes, and that you feel comfortable with them
- Are they smart? - not necassarily educated, but do they seem intelligent and able to think and talk about more complex topics/ideas.
- What can i do with this person? - does this person have many interests, are they open to doing new things, and what activities can i imagine doing with them.
However the previous post implies that to find lasting sexual love, you need to quickly develop an attachment which is not just based on attaction.
We will make the following assumptions:
Humans have a universal need to belong and to love
They get satisfaction from sharing goals and perspective
People feel good around friendlty, funny, enthusiastic people
People like to hear stories, especially anything unusual, surprising, or involving other people, and something horrible/embarrasing (think soap operas)
Different people have different requirements when it comes to bonding and feeling that there is 'chemistry'.
The different elemnst of this chemistry include:
- Sexual - do you meet each others sexual needs
- Telepathy - the need to be able to 'read' someone, and to see/show feelings
- Knowledge - to be able to learn from or teach the other person
- Social - to be talkative, confident, outgoing
- Caring - to be thoughtful, considerate
What is love?
Love is a complex emotion consisting of a number of factors.
There are different forms of love, these are:
From birth we rely on our parents to provide security and comfort. It is inevitable that we will form a close attachment/bond with them. This type of attchment is typified by commitment and care-giving.
Close friends are often formed at school or in the workplace. This environment allows people to be in regular contact with one another, and for attachement to develop. Friends are less likely to be associated with care giving but, having some reliance will develop due to similar interests and experieneces and companionship.
Sexual love is defined, initially, by passion. However if feelings of intimacy, closeness, care giving, or commitment do not also develop then this form of love will be short lived.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
There are different forms of love, these are:
- Love for family members
- Love for a sexual partner
- Love for close friends or even pets
From birth we rely on our parents to provide security and comfort. It is inevitable that we will form a close attachment/bond with them. This type of attchment is typified by commitment and care-giving.
Close friends are often formed at school or in the workplace. This environment allows people to be in regular contact with one another, and for attachement to develop. Friends are less likely to be associated with care giving but, having some reliance will develop due to similar interests and experieneces and companionship.
Sexual love is defined, initially, by passion. However if feelings of intimacy, closeness, care giving, or commitment do not also develop then this form of love will be short lived.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
Thoughts and emotion
What is a emotion? Generally people think of feelings/emotions as things such as happiness, sadness, anxiousness, fear, anger, jealousy, envy, love, hate.
Often people have difficulty expalining why they feel a certain way, which seem to appear involuntarilly. Thoughts on the other hand is made consciously and can be explained more easily
But to what extent is there really a difference between emotions and thoughts.
There are certain core 'emotions' which are shared among almost all animals, such as the feeling you get when you hear a sudden loud noise or something unexpected happens. This emotion has a purpose : to increase your alertness, and prepare your body for 'fight or flight'.
http://www.emotion.discover-your-mind.co.uk/1a-table-of-contents.htm
Often people have difficulty expalining why they feel a certain way, which seem to appear involuntarilly. Thoughts on the other hand is made consciously and can be explained more easily
But to what extent is there really a difference between emotions and thoughts.
There are certain core 'emotions' which are shared among almost all animals, such as the feeling you get when you hear a sudden loud noise or something unexpected happens. This emotion has a purpose : to increase your alertness, and prepare your body for 'fight or flight'.
http://www.emotion.discover-your-mind.co.uk/1a-table-of-contents.htm
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