If you are meeting someone on a first date then you can play up to this by flirting and being playful. Being too serious is more likely than not to reduce the other persons desire for you.
People are quick to judge and make conclusions. These are a few things that i think about on dates and presumably others do too:
- Could i introduce this guy to friends/familiy? - Yes is good, and means that the person has the certain key attributes, and that you feel comfortable with them
- Are they smart? - not necassarily educated, but do they seem intelligent and able to think and talk about more complex topics/ideas.
- What can i do with this person? - does this person have many interests, are they open to doing new things, and what activities can i imagine doing with them.
However the previous post implies that to find lasting sexual love, you need to quickly develop an attachment which is not just based on attaction.
We will make the following assumptions:
Humans have a universal need to belong and to love
They get satisfaction from sharing goals and perspective
People feel good around friendlty, funny, enthusiastic people
People like to hear stories, especially anything unusual, surprising, or involving other people, and something horrible/embarrasing (think soap operas)
Different people have different requirements when it comes to bonding and feeling that there is 'chemistry'.
The different elemnst of this chemistry include:
- Sexual - do you meet each others sexual needs
- Telepathy - the need to be able to 'read' someone, and to see/show feelings
- Knowledge - to be able to learn from or teach the other person
- Social - to be talkative, confident, outgoing
- Caring - to be thoughtful, considerate
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